I am a Certified Group Psychotherapist and have led thousands of hours of group therapy: interpersonal process groups, support groups, psychoeducational groups, training groups and multi-family groups. My early training in Yalom’s Interpersonal Process model continues to be my strongest guide. I currently train in the integration of Modern Analytic theory and adult attachment theory and am influenced by object relations and psychodynamic theories as well. Group theory suggests that the group process is potentially more powerful than individual therapy alone due to its dynamic and relational nature. My approach to group is ultimately grounded in the idea that group is a relational workshop – an opportunity to practice expressing and tolerating emotion states, connect with others, try new skills, learn how we relate to ourselves and others, allow oneself to see and be seen, and more.
Being in a great relationship takes work, creativity and persistence. I pull from many places to support the couples who come to see me. I am interested in the stages and struggles growing couples encounter and I stay curious about the intersection of personal development and relationship vitality throughout the lifespan. My work is strongly influenced by Dr. Stan Tatkin’s PACT model (Psychobiological Approach to Couple Therapy). As a PACT therapist I attune to attachment, neuroscience, and nervous system regulation to help my couples develop a relationship that is secure, mutual and connected. I trained several years in the Gottman Method and find their research on what makes relationships successful (or not) to be helpful. Esther Perel’s work on desire and sexual intimacy in long-term relationships has influenced how I think about sexuality, desire and vitality in the couples I see. Marty Klein and Emily Nagoski have also been influential thinkers and teachers. I use William Doherty’s Discernment Counseling model with couples on the brink who have ambivalence about staying together. Others who influence my work as a couples therapist: Terry Real’s Relational Life Therapy, Harville Hendrix’s Imago theory, Sue Johnson’s Emotion Focused Therapy, Harriet Lerner’s work on the dances we do in intimate relationships, Shirley Glass’s research on infidelity and rebuilding after betrayal, Linda Carroll’s work Love Cycles, and much more.
At my core I am a relational therapist. I believe we are wired for connection, and that emotional healing happens most successfully in the context of healthy relationships (with a skilled therapist, with a loving partner, with engaged group members, with good friends, etc.). My work with individuals is heavily influenced by interpersonal neurobiology, psychodynamic theory and attachment theory. All of these, to some degree, explore the impact of our early relationships on who we are and how we function in the world today. I am also trained in mindfulness and EMDR and have studied the impact of trauma on the body and mind. Pat de Young and Brene Brown’s work on shame and vulnerability are often with me as I work with individuals, couples, and groups.