Hi. If you want to know a bit about who I am, read on:
I’m a spouse, parent, friend, sister, daughter, colleague, community member and client. Being in all these different roles reminds me (daily!) that sometimes life is wonderful, and sometimes it’s really hard. Working to understand and process my own inner world has taught me emotions can deepen connection and provide a roadmap for healing. I believe our mental health and our relationships benefit when we have space and time to explore our inner worlds openly and with curiosity.
Learning excites me and I’m energized by ongoing training and study. I’ve been a therapist for 26 years and have followed my curiosity down many paths in this profession. I am a bit of a cross-pollinator when it comes to the theories and values that inform my work. You can read more about my training and experience on other parts of this page.
At my core I’m a relational therapist. This means I believe the therapeutic relationship is as much the agent of change as any idea or technique. I aim to be steady, curious and relationally available as my clients experience the pain and joy in their own lives. When I miss the mark I’m interested in knowing about it and working towards repair and understanding.
Providing a welcoming and informed space for the diversity of humans and their lived experiences is very important to me.
“I often think of the human mind as a palette, and of psychoanalytic work as the process of allowing the mind to have access to all the colors on it: the ones we love and those we hate, the ones we are afraid of, and the ones we are attracted to. Our sense of aliveness depends on our capacity to feel fully and on the ability to reflect and to get in touch with our inner lives. We may end up choosing the same color again and again, but it becomes a conscious choice rather than using the only color we can see.” -Galit Atlas

My approach (theoretical orientation)
Being in a great relationship takes work, creativity and persistence. I pull from many places to support the couples who come to see me. I am interested in the stages and struggles growing couples encounter and I stay curious about the intersection of personal development and relationship vitality throughout the lifespan. My work is strongly influenced by Dr. Stan Tatkin’s PACT model (Psychobiological Approach to Couple Therapy). As a PACT therapist I attune to attachment, neuroscience, and nervous system regulation to help my couples develop a relationship that is secure, mutual and connected. I trained several years in the Gottman Method and find their research on what makes relationships successful (or not) to be helpful. Esther Perel’s work on desire and sexual intimacy in long-term relationships has influenced how I think about sexuality, desire and vitality in the couples I see. Marty Klein and Emily Nagoski have also been influential thinkers and teachers. I use William Doherty’s Discernment Counseling model with couples on the brink who have ambivalence about staying together. Others who influence my work as a couples therapist: Terry Real’s Relational Life Therapy, Harville Hendrix’s Imago theory, Sue Johnson’s Emotion Focused Therapy, Harriet Lerner’s work on the dances we do in intimate relationships, Shirley Glass’s research on infidelity and rebuilding after betrayal, Linda Carroll’s work Love Cycles, and much more.
I am a relational therapist. I believe we are wired for connection, and that emotional healing happens most successfully in the context of healthy relationships (with a skilled therapist, with a loving partner, with engaged group members, with good friends, etc.). My work with individuals is heavily influenced by interpersonal neurobiology, psychodynamic theory and attachment theory. All of these, to some degree, explore the impact of our early relationships on who we are and how we function in the world today. I am also trained in mindfulness and EMDR and have studied the impact of trauma on the body and mind. Pat de Young’s work on shame is often with me as I work with individuals, couples, and groups.
